Mechanics Vs. Intention

Daddoes volunteered to watch Dobbes the other day as he often does whenever he gets the chance, so I took a long shower.

As I soaped myself (taking great care to stand breast-side away from the warm spray), it occured to me that this year has been all about possibility and results.

When Mobbes and I first started dating, it was founded on impulse, serendipity and gut instinct. There was no reasonable explanation how a long-term committed relationship could follow so quickly or easily but it did, in a very natural and sincere way. Who would have thought giggling over a fellow dancer's nutty, unrequited crush on him would eventually bring on love, marriage and a baby in the carriage et. al.?

The initial bloom of excitement at getting together and so in love quickly grew from the being-inseparable stage to an impossible-to-live-without-the other situation. So I moved in, we did the party rounds enjoying couplehood and planning a life together in a not-too-distant future when suddenly came the Dobbes early this year.

And what a spanner in the works. Unforseen and unplanned but witnessing his existence today, how could we have made any other choice but him?

The rational side of me considered the mechanics of having a baby immediately: money issues; having to put our travel plans on hold; no big wedding; no childcare support; what would our famillies say; etc. etc. etc....

And of course Mobbes had an easy answer for all my questions.

"The mechanics," he said, "can be handled." And he was right.

There has been no end to the luck, joy and blessings that little white Dobbes has heaped our way. Our relationship with our own parents have improved, our friends banded together in emotional and physical support for the baby (want pram? electric breast pump? baby-sitter? help with household? Done!) our lives are organised and focused, we have a helper who cooks us delicious healthy meals as we cuddle up cosily together every night, a warm satisfied cat family...

Soon, we'll have our own nest in good time and Wobbes cannot wait to join us when that happens.

This year has seen big changes in our lives that we made happen that others take years to consider and ruminate upon and may not even end up achieving in a lifetime.

All this because Mobbes and I were clearly intentioned when we chose Dobbes. Everything else is just easy.